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This verse was directed at the leaders of countries, but it is accurate also for the rest of us as we are all “leaders” of somebody. Ironically the first 3 lines are prophetic of the stress we are surrounded by today; when we overtax ourselves, we’ll wear ourselves out and when we overtax others, we wear them out.
When we guide somebody; a child, co-worker or by any kind of teaching, we need to allow space for mistakes, growth and understanding. The people we are responsible for should, under our guidance, become strong and independent. If they don’t, we have failed. Demanding more or better is often not productive, as it creates a stressful situation effectively shutting down creativity and lust. Sometimes the trick is to step back and communicate, finding the best solution possible. Then our “charges” will find the best in themselves – this always comes from feeling trusted. When people feel confident and excited about themselves they will also feel excited about life and the work they are doing, making them want to excel. This is human nature.
Ourselves as well. We are the “rulers” and leaders of ourselves. If we demand too much of ourselves we shut down our own ability to risk/make mistakes/be creative.